The Truth, the Whole Truth.........

Before I continue this entry I should clarify a few things.

The Renee I speak of is a real person. We were high school sweethearts and my first love. Her mother hated me. To this day I don't know why. Back in the day, gangs were almost non existent. I didn't use drugs. I came from a poor family. Hell, we were all poor. At the time I didn't cuss and was taught to respect my elders. Go figure. And the only thing that I was positive of at the time was: I was going to Viet Nam.

Okay. Change of subject.

Notice the picture to your left? The Tree of Life. No. I am not a religious zealot and might at this point of my life, be classified as leaning towards spiritual. But of this I am certain: we ain't all that there is.

And what has all this to do with the Tree of Life and the title of this post? Honestly? I really don't know. But, what I do know is, how brutal relationships can be on all of those involved.

For some reason Meatloaf comes to mind. "Baby we can talk all night, but that ain't getting us nowhere." There are times that communication just doesn't work. Sometimes, the more you talk to each other the more you realize the less you have in common with each other.

Communication can also be a deadly trap, because some people just don't know when to stop. There are things in our personal lives that should remain just that: personal. Sharing this information with ones mate in some misguided attempt to come clean can have some unexpected results that you hadn't counted on.

It's just possible that he/she was just interested in the "now" you. What you are and what you mean to him or her now. In this reality. However, if you think that an old boyfriend or girlfriend might come crawling out of the woodwork at inopportune times, then by all means say so.

Ever hear of selective history? That's what you learned in school. Sanitized lies. You can use this same  tactic when explaining  some unsavory event in your past that you would rather forget. People being the way they are, once they find out something, will pester you to death for details that they really don't want to know about. And once you tell the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth, then your relationship is on an elevator with one button: down.

Mojo

Austin Powers lost his Mojo. Wouldn't it be odd if your Mojo was your partner in life? Just looking at it from a different point of view. Thinking out of the box.
Certainly your first love comes to mind. Somehow we are never quite the same.

Isn't Mojo described as confidence, assurance in your ability to overcome anything thrown at you and having no fear or doubt? A lot of people, myself included, feel that as long as my partner has my back, I am all of the above.

What does having your back mean? This is the only way I can describe it.

Robert E. Howard was the writer of pulp fiction back in...oh, the 1930's or 1940's (I could be wrong about that). Anyway... he wrote Conan the Barbarian.

Conan was in a life and death struggle with some supernatural enemy and his mate at the time was Belit. He was slowly being overpowered by his stronger abvasary and when he got the chance, he thrust out his arm. A knife was placed in his hand. Get it? He knew. He knew that Belit would do this. He expected it. And she knew what was required. She also knew that he would do the same for her.They had each others back.

Check out, "The Getaway". Docs woman literally had to screw some slimeball to get him out of jail. Now that's above and beyond.

If you had a partner like that and you let her/him slip through your fingers, then go and find him/her. Such strong feelings do not just "go away". They only go dormant. Austin Powers had to go back in time to get back his Mojo. What are you willing to do?

POSTSCRIPT: To Renee former graduate of O'Fallon Tech. Renee, I know you're old now. I'm old too.

Hooking Up With Your Ex

There's an old saying, "You never miss a good thing til it's gone". I lost my good thing many years ago. Renee if you are reading this, contact me. Meanwhile here's some information that might prevent you from losing your good thing.

The reality is, nearly all of the instances there is no reason why you are not able to get an ex back after a split-up, given that you recognize what steps are required to gain an old sweetheart back again. The initial step in learning how to win your ex back again is to determine what actually happened which resulted in the break-up. Even though you can't go back into past history, and you are not able to change what transpired, you are able to learn from the blunders that were made and you can aim to learn and mature from experiences.

The break-up might have occurred as a result of one single experience, or it could have occurred because of behaviors that your old flame could not deal with anymore. No matter what the basis was which instigated the split-up, you must get the details made clear so that you can cope with the circumstances if it should ever occur at another time. You can win that old flame if you know how, but if you desire to have it work on a long-term basis, you ought to figure out what went haywire in the beginning.

The following action in the process is to guarantee that you are not appearing as a deprived person. Every person might think they can't live without his or her old flame, however there is no point in making this evident. Instead, you ought to stay tough, and your ex should understand that you are doing just well alone. If all and sundry around you see your comfort and self-confidence, in that case you will maintain a superior probability of getting back again with your ex.

Working to take revenge on that old sweetheart, or attempting to make an ex jealous is not a noble way to function. Actually, these are a few of the nastiest acts which you are able to possibly do, since it will demonstrate to that old sweetheart that he or she could just go forward for the reason that you previously have. At the same time as you do wish for that ex to see that you're doing ok, you do not wish to encourage them to totally move on when your ideal goal is to get back together again. Permit that old sweetheart to notice how strong and self-assured you are, then he or she may well feel inspired to start things up again.

Pulling for you,

Norbert "Mo" Lovelace

Author Resource: Dr. Norbert "Mo" Lovelace is a trained personal advisor with two graduate degrees in assisting people to solve spiritual, psychological and physical problems. He also holds a degree and many years experience in information technology. Ever since his teens he has started and headed many businesses and charitable organizations. Receive his free eBook "How To Win By Losing" to improve your probability of restoring your breakup! You can reach him at norb.lovelace@gmail.com and his web presence is http://www.myheartandhealth.info/



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