The only thing we have in common is sex. He or she is great in bed but...
Does this sound familiar? Does it apply to your relationship?
If sex is the only thing that you have in common with your mate, then you don't have a relationship. You have an outlet. You have a vessel. You have an easy access to sex with someone you feel comfortable with and that you trust... as far as the sex goes. But what about the other facets of the relationship?
Are you on the same wavelengths when it comes to money? How about confiding with each other? How about your goals in life, your interests, the things you eat, the places you like to go, the people you associate with?
Do you only communicate after sex or do you just want to be left alone after your desires are satisfied? Rolling over and going to sleep without so much as a thank you is not a good thing.
Wanting to discuss the events of the day and what you had to go through at work before or after sex is a sign of trouble. Instead of cuddling and feeling each other up, you feel the need to vacuum the floor or fix the roof at three in the morning is a very bad sign that something is wrong.
Sex is the most intimate act that two people can share together. Yet it is only a part of the whole of a relationship. Sex should be reserved for sex. But if you can't bring feeling, compassion, passion and true caring to the bedroom or couch or floor or front lawn or the back seat of your car, then all you have is an outlet.
There is no relationship. Period. Check yourself.
